How to Make Friends Super Easy
1. Always smile at them when you see them, even if you don’t feel great
2. Try to remember birthdays. You’d be surprised how happy that makes people.
3. Give positive feedback when you notice something different about a person whether it’s a new hairstyle, dress, glasses, or even a more genuine smile. But be sure to tell them that THEY look beautiful in that dress. Not that THE DRESS makes THEM beautiful. Because they were beautiful before they put it on.
4. Always invite people to sit with you at lunch if they appear alone. If they decline, just tell them they’re always welcome to join you, but don’t make any comments like, “Why do you want to be alone?” Because there is nothing wrong with being alone, don’t make them feel like there is something wrong with it, even for a second.
5. Don’t ever. EVAR. EVAR EVAREVAR. make snide comments about someone’s wardrobe - unless you’re telling them their tampon string is showing or you’re a teacher at school, don’t say anything about their wardrobe. To anyone. If it’s not your job to enforce a dress code, don’t enforce one.
6.If you are in competition with someone for anything whether it be a spot on a team, a role in the musical, or the winner for Homecoming King/Queen - you are supportive. You do not put the other down. You do not brag to try to scare them or make them self conscious; you just try to the best of your abilities. And if you win, you are silent and gracious. And if you lose, you congratulate them and move on with your life and look for the next big thing.
7.You don’t have to accept or like anyone’s beliefs, you just have to respect them. Even if they have dumb beliefs that violate every bone in your body.
8. If someone is upset, ask them first if they would like a hug - don’t assume physical contact makes everyone feel better.
9.Do extra nice things for people - just spur of the moment, random acts of kindness. You could write a note telling them how much you appreciate them or something as simple as waiting a few seconds to hold the door open for them. Even ask them how their day was. It goes a lot farther than you think.
10. Always, always, ALWAYS apologize when you hurt someone. Even if you aren’t quite sure if it was all your fault, or even if it’s super awkward and hard. They’ll feel better and YOU’LL feel ever better.